Sunday, September 21, 2008


Stupor is almost upon me. But then a random thought strikes me.

How will I know the rightness or the wrongness of my decisions?

I always tell friends whenever they seek my advice that there are no right or wrong decisions, just consequences and the way one deals with them afterwards. But am I right or am I wrong with this? Indeed, it all boils down to what is right and what is wrong. It seems that the world is bounded by Boolean logic; of 1s and of 0s. And who says what is? This mere thought of defining the boundaries of rightness and wrongness seems to exceed any of us. It’s futile. I well remember a quote from Albus Dumbledore of the Harry Potter universe regarding a choice between what is right and what is easy. And yes, most of the time decisions I make are the ones that are easy. But does it mean it is wrong? Does it mean right decisions are difficult? So will this just reduce to choices between easy and difficult?

So what now? How will I know? Maybe if it feels right. Maybe if it feels good. Maybe if it makes others around me happy. Then it is right.

Or maybe I stick to my current principle of unbounded decisions. Because having bipolar path begets an end; that is, a perceived wrong decision means ceasing to exist (metaphorically). But if there are no right and wrong, just plain decisions we make and the consequences we are ready to face, life goes on. So it is not all about knowing on choosing. It’s about being a brave soul who knows what he/she is no matter what the outcome will be. Hah! Easy blogged than done.

But who says it’s easy?

GMT -3 Sao Paulo, Brazil


..ron.. said...

It's easy to advise to someone if you're not on the situation.. In making decisions,used what we have learned with PSDM during our GT days.. hehehe.. weigh the pros and cons.. and make sure you have the balls to take any risks for all the decisions you will made.. :D

naks serious ang jey em.. decision ba i2 pra lumipat ng huawei.. tapos sa rio?? ;p

Kamandagan said...

PSDM. Yup, that would help. And yeah, advice seems like for personal disposal.

Sira! In retrospect yan. Wala pa naman akong decision ngayon that I have to make.

joya :) said...

can I share my 2 cents worth?

This is one thing I managed to learn when I was "on my own".
That yes, there are no right or wrong decisions -- what matters is that in the end, there will be no regrets.. but if there are, its the ability to face them head on.

And yes..just as Ely buendia said -- no one ever said that there's an easy way..

Kamandagan said...

@ joya :)

Amen. :-)

Kaya patuloy nating susuungin ang buhay nating makulay.

Janice said...

random thoughts... ;)

Anonymous said...

You know what bro, I'm always in phase of decisions everyday from simple to the most critical part.Then I learned that making decisions always have someone to consult to.And before I started the day, silence came and I began to consult Him, then He's always listening.Three things I learn from Him when making a dicsion: 1.) Is/are my decision intend/s to Honor Him, 2.) intend/s to value myself and others 3.) intend/s to fulfill His will for me.At the end of the day, I may not be confident that my decision/s is/are right or wrong. But one thing is for sure. Another deposit to my LEARNING BANK ACCOUNT.